Whether you’re enhancing the intimate connection you have with your partner or exploring the boundaries of sex with someone you’re not committed to, sex is one of the most beautiful of all human experiences. Or at least, that’s how everybody talks about it and that’s how everybody wants it to be — even though it’s not that way for everybody. For a lot of people, cannabis is a way to help the passion back into the bedroom.

There are a lot of cannabis users who rave about the impact of cannabis use on their sex lives — and there’s also a lot of research that even suggests a biological mechanism for it. But there’s the other side of the coin like there always is. Those who use cannabis frequently or who report being addicted to cannabis might even experience low libido.

In another scenario all together — if you’re just way too stoned, then having sex might feel funny, awkward, or not at all pleasurable. You might not even get there, if you know what I mean.

As an herbalist, I think using cannabis around sex is a great way to bring something new to intimacy. But cannabis, like any intoxicant, can come between two people in a relationship,  depending on how it’s used. When cannabis becomes a third wheel in a sexual relationship, it’s just that — and it isn’t fun.

So with that in mind, let’s have a look at some of the ways cannabis works for and against your sex life.

Cannabis, relaxation and getting in the groove

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Arguably one of the most common things standing between people and good sex is insecurity or tension. In one study, researchers even concluded that loneliness and depression played a major role in the pain experienced by women during sexual intercourse. 

Your sex life isn’t jumping when there’s no one to do it with. But your sex life also isn’t jumping if you can’t enjoy sex, even if there’s a huge line of people waiting to do it with you. This is where cannabis can really work for your sex life.

In a 2019 study published in Sexual Medicine, researchers found that many women reported decreased pain during sexual intercourse after using cannabis. Now, we don’t know why that’s the case, but we can speculate. 

Increased relaxation, which is also associated with less tension, might be why some women experienced less pain during sex. Being relaxed is extremely important to sex, because if you’re stressed, it’s very difficult to feel safe during a vulnerable experience like sex.

Cannabinoids have the power to reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression when used in the right amounts. For those who find that THC actually causes them some anxiety, CBD is another option to consider. It’s effective at bringing on relaxation and it isn’t psychoactive.

Cannabis and the orgasm.

The orgasm; another phenomenon to be affected by the use of cannabis — or at least, a lot of people say it does. In this study, a whopping 65% of those who used cannabis before sex reported an improved orgasm as one of the effects, in both men and women. 

There is a very key difference between the run of the mill orgasm and the life-changing orgasm. I can’t say I know what it is, I just know a life-changing orgasm when I get one. One of the consequences of the psychological effects of THC is increased physical sensitivity. This is likely the phenomenon behind the amazing orgasm that cannabis is seemingly able to inspire.

But it’s not that cannabis produces a great orgasm. One can’t just smoke a spliff and explode into orgasmic bliss (maybe it happens in metaphorical ways). Which means there’s something else behind it too. Cannabis users often report a sense of increased interpersonal connectedness after using it. This apparent ability to connect seamlessly with the person you’re sharing intimate space with is surely linked to the improvement of the orgasm.

For some people cannabis can cause these feelings of increased connectedness. It doesn’t happen for everybody (some people feel anxious after using THC), which is why it’s important to feel that way if cannabis is at all going to make your orgasm better. It’s important to know yourself and how you respond to cannabis, instead of taking this as meaning that everybody can enjoy a better orgasm with cannabis.

The most important part of your sex life: your libido.

A black and white image of a couple in bed

At the end of the day, the most important thing in your sex life is your libido. Without it, you’re not having sex, and without it you’re probably not enjoying sex very much if you are doing it. And this is also the place where cannabis use is a little bit controversial.

In the study published in Sexual Medicine already mentioned, women also reported increased sex drive. It’s been noted in this study, too. Cannabis, when used correctly and in the right amounts, obviously gets a lot of people in the right mood for sex.

But there is a caveat.

This lesser-spoken-about topic lurks in the dark undergrowth of cannabis conversation. After a long time of chronic cannabis use, your libido can somehow get lost. This is lesser studied in terms of scientific research, but in this study, researchers noted that 26% of cannabis-dependent users who were abstaining reported an increased sex drive. 

Now, it might be a minority of people for whom this happens — you use weed for a long time and then you wake up one day and realise you haven’t felt horny in ages. But it is a very real possibility for a lot of people. In this study published in the Psychology of Addictive Behaviours, researchers noticed that couples in which both people smoked cannabis showed a decreasing trend in conflict resolution over time. This substantiates the idea that something happens between partners (and this could theoretically be extended into non-committed sexual encounters) that negatively affects relationship outcomes (such as sex) after a long time with an addictive relationship towards cannabis.

That’s why it’s really important to think about cannabis and sex in two ways. There’s using cannabis in your life, and of course having sex from time to time. Or there’s using cannabis from time to time before sex or using it only before sex and having a mind blowing experience.

Cannabis can enhance a person’s libido and sex life, but for a lot of people, if cannabis the main event in their life, libodo and sexual arousal can be negatively impacted. 

Finally, let’s talk about dose.

The dose of cannabis is really important to the sexual experience, but it’s also the easiest thing to control, so that’s also why I left it to the end. It’s really simple — don’t use too much of it, especially if THC is your chosen cannabinoid.

Every seasoned cannabis user has accidentally used too much cannabis before. It’s not nice. You can feel anxious, paranoid, nauseous, dizzy — nothing that’s conducive to sex. 

Now I want you to think about the dose of cannabis that typically brings you to that point of disaster. Now, your dose before sex should be at most, ¼ of that dose. 

If 50mg of THC gets you sufficiently blasted, consider a sexy dose to be somewhere around 15 or 20 mg. You can always take more. But you can’t go back once you’re a floppy bag of limbs trying to be sexy.

5 Tips from a herbalist on using cannabis with sex

A gay couple sharing intimacy in bed

Here are my tips on using cannabis with sex to make it work for your sex life and not against it. 

#1: Don’t treat weed like it’s your partner — if you’re more interested in using cannabis than you are in having sex, cannabis won’t make your sex life any better.

#2: Keep the dose modest — I recommend keeping the dose between 5 and 20 mg of THC, and no more than 50 mg of CBD.

#3: Make it a thing — the same way you would make date night a thing. Make a point of feeling sexy and taking cannabis consciously together with the purpose of enhancing your sexual experience. Make it romantic, too!

#4: Mix it up — try different forms of cannabis consumption like edibles and tinctures to mix it up. You might find that there are certain formulas that make you feel sexier than others or certain strains that make you feel sexier than others. Don’t be afraid to mix it up and experiment with different things.

And of course, the most important thing is enjoy it! 

How has cannabis affected you in the bedroom? We’d love to hear from you in the comments.

94 thoughts on “Cannabis & Sex: How it Works For Your Sex Life & Against it

  1. This is awesome Iโ€™ve been preaching for years how much cannabis totally changes the experience.

    1. A great read.

    2. I disagree with the idea behind this story. I dont think people need to be high to have sex, its a recreational drug, not a pre-sex part of setting mood, foreplay type thing.

  2. I’ve never done so before, but this is definitely a new perspective for me given that I’d only ever heard that it reduces libido. It does make sense though, that favourable effects can occur from the more relaxed state that cannabis can produce. The increased physical connectedness was a new realization as well- very eye opening

  3. Cannabis has elevated my sex life like I never could have imagined! There are definitely times, though, where I’ve been too high and just want to sleep.

  4. trying with someone sounds so fun! been reading a lot of this topic

  5. thanks for the info ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Totally agree! Cannabis makes sex so much more enjoyable

  7. Intresting info!

  8. this is an awesome read- there are so many uses and methods!

  9. This is very helpful! Thank you for sharing

  10. Great article

  11. This definitely opened my eyes more never thought about using it that way.

  12. I would love to see a cannabis lube that is condom safe

  13. Just gain some new insight on how cannabis can be helpful in more ways than one! Gotta test out some these.

  14. So important for those that use frequently to be aware of!

  15. So educational! ๐Ÿ˜

  16. Oh heck yes. Married 41yrs. We are getting the cannibas. Anything to keep things going.

  17. Interesting article giving both sides of the picture.

  18. Thanks for the info.Your advice on moderation is wise.

  19. Not sure I need this boost right now, but maybe someday.

  20. Interesting perspective, gives me something to think about.

  21. As a cannabis user i approve.

  22. “I am too stoned for this” lol. Haven’t heard that before.

  23. Thanks for the article. I agree!

  24. Very interesting read – thank you!

  25. I was wondering if you could add some content to this article for people who prefer to have sex in the morning.

  26. Hmmm. Something to think about.

  27. Thx for some useful information , I will try out some tips

  28. This is awesome , thanks for the great information!!

  29. this is so helpful thank you

  30. i am a huge believer in Cannabis for pain

  31. me i like

  32. i also confirm the benefits of cannabis and intimacy

  33. Relaxation is key! Good post.

  34. Some great info everyone should read here!

  35. I find it doesnโ€™t really affect me any differently.

  36. interesting read

  37. The experience of sex on cannabis is taken to the next blissful level

  38. Cannabis is great stuff!!!

  39. Interesting reading about sex and Cannabis. I think that I will try it

  40. I appreciate the information but to be honest at age 81 I’m doing fine without it.

  41. Great informative read, thanks for putting this together!

  42. Thanks for this information. I find it very interesting!

  43. Interested in testing this out and see how well it works

  44. I have tried using cannabis before sex w someone I wasn’t that close with I did feel more sensitive all over so I guess you can say it was more pleasurable

  45. interesting

  46. I’ve definitely had some super sloppy sex due to a too-high dose ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ but YEEEEEEEEEES I love the physical sensitivity cannabis brings to sex (when done right).

  47. we use cannabis in the house here in soft gel form to help my little lady with her pancreatic cancer.

  48. Love some Love Potion

  49. Great info, thanks!

  50. Wow never read or looked at things like this so cool hope my Wife’s into it!

  51. I will admit, when the hubby and i dab into some THC prior we have the best sex

  52. Great information. I learned something new

  53. Those tips are very helpful

  54. thanks for the great inforamtions

  55. Very interesting would not have thought of half of what was discussed thank you for the information.

  56. so far it doesn’t work for me but I’ve only tried smoking and sex

  57. I havenโ€™t tried cannabis with sex before, this article is so good, you couldnโ€™t explain about the doses better than you did.

  58. There was lots of information in here that was completely new to me. Definitely an interesting read!

  59. Good information to have. Thanks for the article.

  60. This is really interesting!!! I have worried about chronic use inhibiting my sex drive.

  61. Interesting stuff! Thanks for the info.

  62. I have no one to have sex with, sooo I’m good

  63. Wow this is all very good to know. I have always heard that it help your sex life but it’s nice to learn exactly how and why.

  64. thanks for the info

  65. Should be able to have a great time without cannsabis

    1. Of course! Cannabis should be an addition to the bedroom for something fun, exciting, or romantic and shouldn’t be a requirement for a good time. Cannabis definitely can work against your sex life if it becomes like that. We advocate for cannabis to be a sexy manage-a-trois, and definitely not an awkward third wheel!

  66. Oooh yes! I love this. Everyone should have a little cannabis infused love making in their lives ๐Ÿ˜

  67. I love sex & cannabis together; Iโ€™ve yet to have a bad experience

  68. Iโ€™ve always been pro marijuana + sex but now we have so many more options of ways to include cannabis in the bedroom! So exciting

  69. So many options to jazz up a sexy night together! Or morning or whenever. ๐Ÿ˜ Dosage is clearly important.
    ~H

    1. Yes! There are so many more options than just smoking together, aren’t there? That’s what makes cannabis so fun and exciting โ€” well, that’s what we think anyway. Glad you enjoyed reading the article.

  70. Very informative article and plan on putting it to use.

    1. We’re glad to hear that. We look forward to hearing how it works for you and hopefully not against you!

  71. Interesting post, thanks for the great information!๐Ÿฅฐ

  72. great article.

  73. Very interesting! So cool to learn more!

  74. Good information!

    1. Thank you. We hope it helps!

  75. The more we learn about cannabis enhancing sex the better it is for all!

  76. I think it would be very individual, but if it helps, that’s great!

  77. So interesting!

  78. This is all very intetesting thanks for the read! I cant use cannabis due to my meds ๐Ÿ™‚

  79. I wonder what constitutes a “long time”. What is the frequency and duration we’re talking about here? Is it daily use for a year or more? or decades of use?

  80. Great, informative article!

  81. Interesting read for sure. Ty

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